| Here are 10 Essential
Reality Checks for YOU to consider when 'others'
are considering the addition of a new pet to your
family or household.
So you want a pet or at least your kids want
a pet, well there is nothing unnatural about that,
the whole idea will sound great...but wait a minute,
stop and think.... there are some great positives
about this idea....there are also some essential
reality checks that need thinking about....a quick
read through my checklists below will help you
make a more realistic decision.
Remember the old saying "A pet is not just
for Christmas". Someone will have to clear
the 'pooh' up at the end of it .... all.
Essential Reality Check No. 1 -
The Type of Pet
The type of pets for kids you can take into your
household will depend on a whole host of things
such as follows:
The ages of your kids - a two year old child
will probably not be able to handle a pet gently
and certainly won't be able to care for the pet.....
How much will the pet costs be - not just to
buy - but to care for on a daily basis?
What size of pet does your child want? - What
space will be needed? A hamster does not take
up much space but guinea pigs, ferrets and rats
need much larger cages.
How much time do your kids and you as a family
have to give to the pet?
Will your family be safe with the pet? Will the
pet be safe with your family?
If you have a larger pet such as a dog, cat,
or goat what effects will it have on your family,
friends and neighbours?
How will your pet be cared for during your holidays.
Will your family be able to cope with the eventual
death of a pet?
Some pets will sleep most of the day and be awake
at night. Hamsters can be very noisy at night!
If your child wants a dog you will need to look
into the breed, size and exercise needs of the
dog.
Do you already have another pet, what effect
will it have on that pet. For instance will your
dog be ok with a cat or rabbit or bird?
Essential Reality Check No. 2 -
Ages of your Kids
You will need to decide on a pet that is suitable
for the age of your kids.
For instance in most cases it would not be wise
to buy a hamster for a two year old child who
is still adapting to the world around them and
may not know or be able to handle the hamster
gently.
Do you want to give your kids some responsibility
in caring for an animal. Some kids are very responsible
and will be able to manage this. Other kids, well
the sight of a baby animal is just too appealing,
after all who can resist a cute puppy or kitten
or baby hamster?
At first you may need to help your kids, as caring
for a pet is a very responsible job. As a parent
or carer you will always need to oversee a pet's
care.
As the parent or carer you will need to decide
if your child is old enough to handle and care
for a pet. How often have parents heard the cry
"oh but we promise we'll take it for walks
everyday"
Or "we'll clean it out mum, we promise".
How will you feel in a years time when you find
yourself caring for the pets because the kids
are busy with friends or away on a school trip
or inundated with homework or just plain bored
with the poor thing.
Essential Reality Check No. 3 -
True Costs of Pets for Kids
Some pets are very cheap to buy for instance
hamsters, guinea pigs, goldfish. gerbils, fancy
rats, fancy mice and rabbits and even ferrets.
You will still need to consider:
The cage set up (this can be very expensive when
looking at the cage sizes that most pets need)
in fact they need the largest cage you can manage
Food costs per week
Bedding
Vets bills if your pets become ill.
e.g. Ferrets need a yearly injection against canine
distemper.
Holiday care - you will need to pay for this of
course if you cannot rely on friends and family.
Bigger pets for kids such as goats, and dogs
and pedigree cats are far more expensive to buy
initially, some costing hundreds of pounds.
You will need to consider:
Bedding and a cage (if buying one for your dog
or cat)
Leads and collars for dogs.
Food bills
Vets bills (dogs should have yearly check ups
with a vets)
Toys
Holiday care (kennels can be very expensive)
Flea treatment
Ongoing veterinary costs if your pets becomes
chronically ill.
Essential Reality Check No. 4 -
The Space Required
Even small pets for kids such as guinea pigs,
fancy rats and ferrets need a lot of cage space
for a happy life. They will need the biggest cages
you can find space for. These pets also need space
to exercise out of the cage.
Cats take up very little space, as do small breeds
of dogs.
Dogs will need a decent sized garden as well as
walks to keep them well exercised.
Essential Reality Check No. 5 -
Time for your Pets
Do you and the family have time for a pet.
For smaller pets you will need to have them out
of the cage and being handled daily for at least
2 hours a day.
Do you have time to clean out your pet at least
once or twice a week, or even daily?
Some pets will certainly need the toilet corner
of their cage cleaned more often to avoid a foul
smelling cage and pet.
Water bottles and food bowls will need cleaning
and refilling every day.
Will you be able to walk your dog at least once
a day? - dependent on the breed some need more!
Are you willing to look after your pets for kids
for the many years some can live?
(From 18 months to 2 years for a mouse up to 15
years for a dog)
If you are out at work all day and the kids are
at school all day your pets will need and will
demand attention when you return home
Essential Reality Check No. 6 -
Your Pet and Family Safety
You will always need to ensure your kids safety
when they are spending time with any pets.
Even little pets can bite and leave a wound.
Dogs should not be left unattended with your
kids as they are unpredictable. Even a faithful
dog will bite and even attack a child if they
are in pain or afraid. It happens rarely - but
it does happen.
You will also need to ensure your pets safety:Is
your child able to handle a pet safely without
hurting it.
Is your pet safe with any other pets in the home?
- if you have young children and a dog .... you
will need to make sure the dog cannot escape because
a door is accidentally left open.
If you have a dog you need to ensure visitors
safety as you can be sued if your dog bites someone
on your property (or even off your property)
Make sure that when pets for kids are having
free time out of cages that:
Other pets cannot hurt them
They cannot chew electrical leads
They cannot fall into toilets or baths of water.
They cannot escape through gaps in walls or floors
They cannot get outside without supervision
Essential Reality Check No. 7 -
Effects on Family and Neighbours
The whole family needs to be in agreement if
you are getting pets. Pets can be noisy and messy
having an effect on family living.
What effect will a pet such as a dog have on
Granny who suffers with an allergy - will that
mean she cannot come to visit anymore?
If you get a dog will it bark and howl when you
leave them for any length of time and will this
annoy your neighbours.
Will the dog bark when your neighbours are in
their own garden.
How will your neighbours take to having your pet
cat mess in their garden?
You will need to keep your yard free of dog mess
to ensure it does not smell -particularly in summer
months.
Essential Reality Check No. 8 -
Holidays and Care for Pets for kids
If you have pets for kids what will happen to
them during your holiday times.
Do you have family or friends who can care for
your pets while you are away.
If not you will have to pay for your pets care.
This will be expensive for dogs, cats and larger
animals.
Even for little pets, holiday care can be expensive.
Essential Reality Check No. 9 -
Loss of a Pet and Grief
Some children are really sensitive and will be
distraught when their beloved pet eventually passes
away, or is lost in some way.
This is especially distressing if the pet has
died as a result of an accident or illness.
How will you manage this?
The kids will need to grieve, grieving is a healthy
part of a loss reaction. We can suffer losses
every day in a small way such as not getting something
we want, this causes a loss reaction and part
of the healing for this is grief. If your child
or other family member struggles with the grieving
then look at the following and see if it applies.
The grieving process has seven stepping stones
through which people move. Your family member
may not go through them in order or spend long
on any one.
The stepping stones are:
Shock, Denial, Guilt, Anger, Depression Bargaining,
Acceptance
Your child may want another pet this is called
bargaining and is one of the stepping stones through
the grief process.
If your child cannot have another pet, break down
the hidden losses that the death of their pet
has caused.
Could there be a loss of your child's self worth
or self esteem.
Have they lost their only companion.
Has your child lost the only one who listened
to them.
By chatting try to find out how your child is
feeling and help them to work out their losses
and then work through to acceptance by doing some
healthy bargaining.
Would your child be able to regain their sense
of worth or self esteem another way? Perhaps helping
out with a friends pet for instance.
For some children it may be helpful to have a
burial service, so they can say goodbye properly.
(My son kept some hair from his beloved dog)
Our kids have managed the deaths of their pets
really well and have gone on to have other pets,
for other kids though it has more of an effect
so you will need to decide when or if to replace
your child's pet.
Essential Reality Check No. 10 -
Pets for Kids are GREAT!
For the most part pets for kids are good fun.
They are often good company for your kids especially
if the kids are lonely.
Our autistic daughter has changed a lot since
we got her guinea pigs to look after. She has
gained some imaginative play, we think this is
because she talks to her guinea pigs.
We do have to oversee her with them though.
Kids can learn a lot from caring for pets for
kids and by having pets even when they are lost
naturally.
Dogs can encourage the family out to get exercise
as they walk the dog.
All our kids love their pets.
Dog Treats : natural dog treats
Cat Wormer : VioVet offers excellent medication for cat worming. Regular cat worming reduces the risk of harmful consequences with your pet's general health.
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